As a normal functioning adult, you have certain responsibilities in the world. You didn’t sign up for any of these responsibilities. It’s just a part of life and the unspoken contracts. As a baby, you are responsible for absolutely nothing. You’re singular and most important goal is to survive. And many times our parents are the ones who take the reigns of that goal as well. But as we grow from infant to toddler to child to teen our responsibilities gradually increase. We’re expected to help clean, feed ourselves, learn in school, and overall be a more productive part of the family. It’s our transition from family guest to family member. We have to add value.
When we become full blown adults by the standard of society that responsibility gets even wider. We’re now expected to add value not just to our small family but to the world as a whole. So it’s our responsibility to learn a skills that are in-demand. We’re quickly taught how to read, write, work in teams, and even drive vehicles. Then we have to use our skills to create income and value. We have to share that income with the government that protects us. We have to pay bills, protect the youth, and continue adding value until we’re old. By the time you’re married with kids there’s a million and one responsibilities expected of you. And rarely do you choose which ones you do and don’t get. You just have to stick it through. But which one of your responsibilities do you wish you could get rid of?
Here’s a short story on which one of my responsibilities I wish I could get rid of.
It was my first year of college. I had been enjoying my time at Kennesaw State University. The classes were all pretty interesting even when I felt like it wasn’t relevant to my degree. I hated all the basic freshman courses that were mandatory. But I still found some classes interesting and learned a lot in random subject areas. All the students on campus were super friendly and welcoming. I often spent my days introducing myself to interesting looking girls walking to and from class. I enjoyed all the extra activities that they hosted for the students. It was a great college experience all in all.
But when I took the time to look at my bills with a counselor, I was shocked. I knew college was expensive but I didn’t realize it was that expensive. I was paying more than four grand per semester to be there. I know that’s on the lower end compared to other people’s college tuition. But I’ve always been the type of person to only buy things I could flat out afford. And that doesn’t mean I could afford with a loan or some financing. I mean if I don’t have the cash in hand right now, then I don’t need it right now. When it came to college I didn’t look into any of that stuff. I had no idea how the whole process worked. And part of me assumed my parents were somehow paying for my college courses.
I kept my neutral poker face on even though I felt like puking all over the table. When I left my counselor’s office I was still in shock. I felt like I just found out years later that I was adopted. So my immediate thought was how I couldn’t afford this. The college experience was great but there was no way in hell I would pay thirty two thousand dollars for it. I had too many other life paths and options I could pursue. I started thinking about the business I had been working on with my bestfriend. We were serious about it but we only worked on it every now and then. At this point, I knew I had to make it my fulltime gig. College was no longer an affordable option for me.
I decided right there and then that I would be dropping out of my college. I slowly started skipping my classes to work on business. Then I would miss out on important quizzes and tests. Eventually, I stopped showing up all together to any and every class I had. That was it. I was done with college. What I didn’t realize is that there was a formal process to drop out of college. Years later I never filled out the form or application to drop out of college. I just didn’t register for classes for the next two semesters. The school probably still thinks I’m in enrolled until this day. I don’t know if there’s some kind of penalty for not formally dropping out. Maybe I’m still being charged for university even though I haven’t been in years. I still don’t understand why there would be a formal way to drop out of school.
Nonetheless, it was something I’m responsible for. I should have been an adult and did the responsible thing but instead I chose to be lazy. I did the least amount of work possible. And to this day, I wish I didn’t have tedious responsibilities like that. I hate all formal and legal responsibilities that I have. I hated having to register my business with my local government. I don’t understand how to properly pay my local, state, and federal government for taxes each year. I have to go and file annual registrations for business. I hate having to file my loans into forbearance or whatever I have to do to explain I just can’t pay right now.
If I had the chance to get rid of one responsibility I know exactly what it would be. I would get rid of all legal and formal responsibilities. I don’t want to file business registrations, business taxes, loan repayment notices, license renewals, tag renewals, or anything in between. I would drop those things in a heartbeat. I know I can’t be the only one. The government expects a lot from everyone these days. Each branch or agency has their own ridiculous hoops to jump through. And it sucks because often it’s not the responsibilities themselves that people avoid. It’s the point that even in this modern age, our entire government system is historic, slow, and tedious. That’s just plain sad.
Hey U.S. Government, make it easier to file and pay for these ridiculous responsibilities and maybe we’d do it more often! 🙂