We are what we believe. At the end of the day, the things you strongly believe in are one of the biggest reflections of who you are. If you believe in treating everyone equally then it will show in your character. You will help women just as much as you help men. If you believe that asian men are the superior human race then it will be evident in the way you live. You might be eager to hang around asians and act very distant when you’re forced to mingle with other races. Your beliefs are a part of who you are as a person. The things you believe are one if not the greatest differentiator of you from everyone else.
When you adopt the beliefs of your parents you become a lot like them. You might not live the same exact life. But you will likely marry the same kind of man, raise your family with similar values, and partake in similar activities over the years. Your beliefs are a core ingredient in your character and behavior as a person. But that applies to the things you truly believe in your heart. The things you believe no matter where you are and who you’re around. And the things you believe that not many others agree with, are part of your individualism. Don’t be closed minded to opposing opinions but embrace the beliefs you hold that make you different. So what’s a belief that you hold with which many people disagree?
Here’s my thoughts on a belief that I hold with which many people disagree.
I have many beliefs that are radical in nature. I’m never the one to follow things because a crowd is doing it. Nine times out of ten I will assess my own thoughts and feelings on something before I decide to stand by it. When you approach life in this manner, you end up with many beliefs that are against the grain. Some are kind of against the crowd while others are completely polarizing. I have beliefs in every level of radicalism. And those beliefs usually aren’t things I choose to believe for the sake of being different. I love to embrace my individualism before being just another sheep. But when it comes to the beliefs I truly stand by, there is a lot of thought and depth behind them. I couldn’t pick just one so here’s a couple I think most disagree with.
Everyone deserves another chance. This one is one that sounds ignorant even when I write it. What kind of delusional idea is that where the worst of the worst get more chances to bad? It doesn’t make sense. If you keep giving people chances to do bad things, they will have more opportunities to do bad. That’s plain and simple to see. And I can’t argue with that. But for every opportunity you give someone to do bad again, you are also giving them an opportunity to do good. And that’s a huge thing. If you judge and convict people off their singular action you are forever holding them to a past version of themselves. And that sucks. We all make mistakes in life. We really do. But some of us aspire and work to do better.
That’s where the idea of giving people another chance comes in. I really struggled with this idea over the last few years. If someone made a conscious decision to do wrong by me, then I will have to hold them accountable for their decisions. And we all should. But at the same time we should never lock someone in to a box of who they are and could be. That’s messed up. Imagine you were trying to be a better person and learn from your mistakes but the world has forever cast you as a bad person. That would discourage the most persistent of people. We shouldn’t blindly allow ourselves to be taken advantage of by bad people. But we should always give them the room and opportunity to improve who they are. That’s the beauty of the future, everything can change.
Another thing I believe that most people probably don’t is something that deals with money. It’s not about how much money you have or how you go about getting money. Although, I have a lot of very interesting beliefs when it comes to that. But rather, I believe we should rent everything in life that we truly want and aspire to have. In other words, the dream house you hope to buy one day, rent it. The luxury Lamborghini sports car you want to own, rent it. The vacation home you want to build on the beaches of Hawaii, just rent it. We are quick to conform to things in life. No matter how nice things are, it will eventually get old to us. If we rent the things we truly want, we force ourselves to cherish it more in the moment and not take it for granted.
The last belief I’ll write about is one that I’ve always had. The idea of speaking the truth. Everybody wants to hear the truth and never be lied to. That’s a survey that doesn’t even need to be asked. People don’t like being lied to. But at the same time, we’re all so quick to lie to others in our everyday lives. We feel that people are better off hearing what they want to hear rather than what they need to hear. And that’s sad. We’re all hypocrites in that sense. I believe that people need to hear the truth. And we should all tell the truth 99.999% of the time. I know it will hurt a lot of people’s feelings but it will leave them better off in the long run. The truth will set you free. I think life would be so different if everyone told the truth all the time.
I know all these beliefs aren’t ones that you can stand behind. And I don’t expect you to. I believe these things because I put a lot of time and thought into them. I have seen things in my lifetime that made me feel these are the right things to believe in. But we’re all humans with our own sense of morals and ethics. What I believe will never be exactly the same as what you believe. We just have to accept that. It’s not always bad to be different. It might be awkward explaining your beliefs to a group of people that believe the exact opposite. But it’s better to stand up for what you truly believe in than to fall into a pack of millions of other sheep. Be a leader before you’re a follower. Or at the very least, be yourself.
Go ahead and call me crazy because I believe in some outlandish things. But don’t forget, I also believe in you.