Some animals are just social by nature. They were meant to live and interact with others from the moment they were born. Think about wolves, elephants, or lions that live in packs their whole life. Humans are the same. We aren’t necessarily in packs but we’re very social by nature.
At the same time life is something that we experience primarily as individuals. The only person guaranteed to be with you from beginning to end is yourself. So sometimes we have to focus on ourselves and our personal lives. It’s important in keeping a healthy personal life to be introspective. We should ask, “What is the most important thing you could do right now in your personal life?”
Here’s my thoughts and answer to that question.
My personal life is super personal to say the least. Some people are open books with many friends. However, there’s a subset of people that are super personal and like to keep things to themself. I’m that person. If I share my personal life, you can rest assured you’re someone I truly value in my life. But while I won’t share all the details of my personal life, I can openly share what’s important for it right now.
The thing I think is important for my personal life right now is space. We’re all social and tend to like other humans by default. At the same time, we’re all private and need space to ourselves. It’s all about having a balance between the private and the social. It’s also about recognizing what exactly you need for yourself.
I’ve taken the time to acknowledge that I need space. Space is something that fuels me and allows me to think clearly. When I get the space I need, I’m happy and have a positive outlook on life. When I don’t get the space I need, the opposite happens. I’m naturally much more negative and feel constantly overwhelmed. That’s me.
So space is something I value and need to keep consistent in my life. I don’t think that I should never be around others. I just think I need a healthy amount of alone time in my life. Healthy should be on my terms not based on what other people feel and think. That’s what I think my personal life is currently lacking.
I spend a lot of time stuck in my room. I don’t want to be around others much at all. But at the same time, when I’m getting in my groove and starting to grow people appear. My girlfriend comes home from work, my sister needs me to drop her friends somewhere, or I have to plan and attend a surprise birthday party for my mom. Space seems simple until you have a life built on the foundation of other people.
But that doesn’t mean it’s not possible. If I put my mind to I know I can get what I need to grow. Maybe I’ll have to sacrifice space now and work through the mess. Maybe I’ll plan a vacation to get away and leave the country unannounced for a few months. Who knows? All I know is, it’s possible. And all I need to know is, it’s possible, for me to have hope. Because there’s very few things that are more important in my life than the health of my personal life.