We’re all looking for the true answer to life. Why are we all here? What is our purpose in life? Some people find purpose in money, government, or religion. But as we go on through life, we all gravitate to one important thing called love. Now some of us find purpose in love before anything else. It’s a beautiful thing.
But what aspects of love are actually important. There are two main camps when it comes to love. There are the people who think it’s more important to love. The act of loving others is a gift in of itself. And then there are the “to be loved” camp. They agree the feeling of being loved is a special and priceless thing everyone should experience in life.
Here’s which I think is more important and my thoughts on it.
I think it is most important to be loved. The feeling of being loved is very special and one of a kind. The people that think this are very accurate and surely have been loved many times in their life. This doesn’t take away from the importance of loving others. I just think being loved is much more impactful.
It goes beyond being loved by others though. That is a great feeling. I enjoy the love I get from my significant others, my friends, and my family. I can only imagine being beloved by millions of people as a celebrity. But I think the feeling of being loved by others is only a small part of the equation.
Much more important I believe, is to be loved by none other than yourself. Self-love is very very important in life. It is much more important than loving others or being loved by them. Self-love is impactful in so many ways. It can be the difference between being miserable and truly happy. There’s nothing harder than waking up every day living with yourself when you despise everything about you.
When you really think about it, self-love is the foundation of all other love. It’s impractical to give love to others when you’re too unhealthy mentally in you and your self-esteem. In the same light, it’s impossible to be receiving of love when you hate yourself. Some people may fake it but to genuinely receive love and praise, you must first love yourself.
Everyone should make an effort to love who they are. If there’s something you don’t like, work on it. Make a plan of action and become the person you want to be. Be the person you love to love. This in turn will make you more happy and more confident. And that confidence will roll over in to the rest of your life like compounding interest.
So don’t go looking to love another person before you love yourself. And don’t go thinking being loved by others will make you love yourself. You have to find self-love within. Everyday you should live your life in a way that you love. You should do things that you can stand by. There’s no greater love than the love you can give to yourself. Remember and live by that because you’ll be living with yourself your whole life.