Everyone gets attached. We get attached to things. We get attached to people. We get attached to ideas. As we live our lives, we find things we enjoy or love. Then we get attached to these things. And we hold on to things that sometimes we don’t need to.
Why do we hold on to things that hurt us? Why do we love things that hate us? Why do we commit to things that can’t commit to us? Everyone has something they’re holding on to. Whether it’s a grudge, an addiction, an idea, or a concept. We need to let go.
Here are a few things I need to let go of.
My idea of success.
As entrepreneur, I’ve signed my years away to hard work and discomfort. I, like other entrepreneurs, wake up every day with one focus on my mind… Growing my business. But I don’t think anyone would obsessively commit to the trials of entrepreneurship if they didn’t see a worthy reward. A reward called success.
My idea of success is distorted. Years of watching millionaires on interviews, or people blowing money taught me success requires being filthy rich. I know it isn’t true. I’ve been convinced that not having money means not being successful. And that’s not true. I need to let go of that idea. There is so much success and happiness in life that has nothing to do with money. I need to focus on that.
My idea of love.
Love is such an abstract concept. But again, we learn how to love from the shows, movies, books, and even people around us. I’ve been through some crazy times in my former relationships. (Honestly, haven’t we all.) And those things in the past have altered my thought of love.
I think that love looks one certain way. If someone doesn’t support your dreams, they don’t love you. If they can’t commit to this, they can’t truly love you. It’s sad. That’s a flawed way to see it. Love comes in many shapes and forms. And there are many different love languages in the world. I need to let go of my pre-conceived notions and be open to real love.
My idea of humanity.
Humans are such complicated beings. Life can be simple. But when you introduce free-will, thoughts, emotions, and more things get complicated. I believe everyone should approach things in a certain way. That everything in life should be done in a logical way. That it’s better to be rational in every situation.
But life doesn’t work that way. Sometimes we must make irrational decisions. Sometimes we have to be emotional. And while I believe we should all have genuine morals that guide our actions, it doesn’t always pan out that way. We are humans which means we are flawed. People won’t ever be perfect. And I have to accept that.
Life is too short to be holding on to things that hold you back. There’s so much growing that happens when you are willing to take the leap. When you walk out of one relationship into a better one. When you jump from one job into a real career. When you grow from one idea into a better more accurate idea.
Don’t be afraid to let things go because sometimes that’s the only way to grab onto something better.