What’s a belief that you hold with which many people disagree?

We are what we believe. At the end of the day, the things you strongly believe in are one of the biggest reflections of who you are. If you believe in treating everyone equally then it will show in your character. You will help women just as much as you help men. If you believe that asian men are the superior human race then it will be evident in the way you live. You might be eager to hang around asians and act very distant when you’re forced to mingle with other races. Your beliefs are a part of who you are as a person. The things you believe are one if not the greatest differentiator of you from everyone else.

When you adopt the beliefs of your parents you become a lot like them. You might not live the same exact life. But you will likely marry the same kind of man, raise your family with similar values, and partake in similar activities over the years. Your beliefs are a core ingredient in your character and behavior as a person. But that applies to the things you truly believe in your heart. The things you believe no matter where you are and who you’re around. And the things you believe that not many others agree with, are part of your individualism. Don’t be closed minded to opposing opinions but embrace the beliefs you hold that make you different. So what’s a belief that you hold with which many people disagree?

Here’s my thoughts on a belief that I hold with which many people disagree.

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Who do you love and what are you doing about it?

Love is a powerful thing. We will never truly see love with our own two eyes. We will never hear love with our ears. We will never touch, taste, or smell love. But love is a very real thing. Maybe love is an amalgamation of all the senses coming together into one. We may never know. But almost all of us can agree that love is a powerful force. The things that people do for love is on an unbelievable level. Love can motivate us to change our whole lives. Love can move us to do things that money and power would never. Love is one of if not the most powerful invisible force humans experience.

And that’s why we spend so much time focused on finding it. Most people spend their whole lives searching for true love. We’ve seen some of the greatest movies, books, and songs created solely around love. And there have been entire industries pop up that are dedicated to helping people find love. But the way we approach love is flawed for many of us. We search for people we can love all the time. But we spend little to no time actually appreciating the people in our lives that we already love. And that’s just as important for you to keep love healthy in your life. So who do you love and what are you doing about it?

Here’s my thoughts on who I love and what I’m doing about it.

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Do you ask enough questions or do you settle for what you know?

Questions are one of the most useful conversational tools. When things fall flat or get awkward, all it takes is a well placed question to pick things back up. Questions are the best way to incite deep conversations and get people to share their innermost thoughts. You can of course share statements on your own deep thoughts. But that will never guarantee that someone will want to reciprocate and share their own deep thoughts. It could be as simple as just asking what you want to know rather than sharing what you want to be shared. Both strategies can work. But one will work much more frequently than the other.

Questions are powerful for social dynamics in general. Questions can be used to change the topic or focus of a conversation. Questions can be used to hold power in conversations with groups. If you are the person asking questions, then you are the one directing the conversation. There’s a million and one ways that questions are useful. It’s up to you to use questions to their maximum potential in your life. And one of the best ways to get better at using questions is to simply just ask them more often. You should audit how many questions you ask and whether you’re really asking enough in your everyday life. So do you ask enough questions or do you settle for what you know?

Here’s my thoughts on whether I ask enough questions or if I settle for what I know.

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What do you wish you spent more time doing five years ago?

Time is one of those things that we appreciate more as we get older. When we’re young we think time is the infinite resource that will always be at our fingertips. We could care less about wasting a whole day playing with legos or running around in the backyard. What else would a ten year old child be doing all day? But when we get older that entire mentality changes. We often have so many different things to get done that it feels like there’s never enough time in the day. You want to go to the gym, you have to go to work, you want to clean your room, you want to go out with the girls, you need to check up on the family, and you want to take a moment to read a good book in the jacuzzi. The older you is searching for time in every nook and cranny.

As we get older the value of time increases exponentially. At some point we realize that time is a very finite resource for human beings. We only have a certain amount of days, hours, and minutes before we spend our last one. It it’s at that point that we often try to be better at how we use our time. We read books and guides on maximizing our productivity trying to find any little advantage we can. But we also start taking the time to think of how wasteful we were in the past. Many people would do things very differently if they were given a few years back to relive. Our lives could be very different if spend our time wisely from a young age. You should think about that often to be more strategic now. So what do you wish you spent more time doing five years ago?

Here’s my thoughts on what I wish I spent more time doing five years ago.

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What life lesson did you learn the hard way?

Life is all about the lessons we learn through the journey. We’re born empty-minded and very impressionable as kids. As we grow we start to observe and learn about the world around us. We learn how to speak, move, and even how to think. The problem is we learn most of what we know from people that are flawed and broken in their own ways. And many times that flawed logic can transfer into our own perspective of how the world works. We then go around living out a similarly broken life making similarly bad mistakes. And that’s when someone else has to step in.

Life usually has a way of teaching us the lessons that we were never properly taught. Our parents might have skipped the lesson on sex or financial literacy. But we don’t need to worry. It will be a matter of time before life teaches you the consequences of unsafe frivolous sex. Or maybe you’ll end up making a bad financial investment and learn the importance of reading the fine print. Parents, teachers, and friends are great. But life will always be the ultimate teacher. Sometimes you just learn lessons better when you’re taught the hard way. So what life lesson did you learn the hard way?

Here’s a short story on what life lesson I learned the hard way.

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What gets you excited about life?

Life is a rollercoaster ride. Things start off slow and steady. Then out of nowhere you get taken on the wildest ride of your life. There are a lot of low points where you think it’s all over. But then you’re brought up to a high point where you can see the beauty in the whole experience. It’s hard to deal with all the highs and lows playing with your emotions. So we do our best to avoid all the lows and focus on the highs. The problem is life needs lows and highs to be a balanced experience. With only highs we’d lose our sense of joy. With only lows we’d lose the motivation to keep going. We’re bound to experience both because it’s a part of the human experience.

But that doesn’t mean we can’t find ways to get out of the lows quicker. We’re going to have hard times but they don’t have to last a millenium. Sometimes we can find things in life that instantly get us in a good mood. Most people have that one thing that excites them about life no matter the situation. They could be depressed and sad for a week, but when they focus on that one thing they will be energized and happy. Those things that excite us through the good and bad are often the things that we’re meant to do. We should spend more energy on the things that truly excite us. So what gets you excited about life?

Here’s my thoughts on what gets me excited about life.

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What’s the most sensible thing you’ve ever heard someone say?

If it doesn’t make sense, then it won’t make dollars. People are almost always going to gravitate to the things they better understand. That goes for buying things like a new phone that’s easier to use versus a complex one. It goes for relationships with someone that is clear with their intentions versus someone who is confusing or play games. And it goes for everything inbetween. It’s a really valuable asset to be understandable in the grand scheme of life. Mystery might catch a lot of people’s initial attention but without some understanding that interest will surely fade.

Things that make sense in a quick and concise way are usually widely loved. This is evident in something as simple as quotes. Quotes have pretty much been used to convey information since the beginning of time. You can share a powerful piece of information in a short, digestable manner. And many times a good quote will stick in people’s minds forever and be shared around the globe. We should always be on the lookout for great, sensible pieces of information like quotes. You’d be surprised how impactful a good sensible thought can be in your life, if you actually remember it. So what’s the most sensible thing you’ve ever heard someone say?

Here’s my thoughts on what is the most sensible thing I’ve ever heard someone say.

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Who do you sometimes compare yourself to?

“Comparison is the thief of joy.” That’s a famous quote by Theodore Roosevelt. And it makes a lot of sense. When you take the time to size yourself up in comparison to other people, it can be really depressing. If you see that you aren’t as accomplished as your peers then you’ll feel behind. If you notice you’re not as attractive as your girlfriend’s ex-boyfriend you’ll probably feel insecure. If you notice that you’re not as rich as the people you hang out with, then you’ll feel like you’re less valuable. And all of that constant comparison can really get to your head. At some point you might start believing that you aren’t as important, attractive, or valuable as everyone else.

That’s a horrible thing to do your self-esteem. It’s good to realize that you’re not perfect so that you can aspire to improve. Why would you ever try to grow if you thought you were perfect? But at the same time, you have to protect your peace of mind from constant ruthless comparison. Comparison really is the thief of joy. But it’s still one of the best ways to learn things. We can learn a lot from simply comparing things and finding the differences. And comparison can even help us aspire to do and be more with ourselves. It’s all about healthy comparison that empowers or inspires you. And we all do that sometimes. So who do you sometimes compare yourself to?

Here’s my thoughts on who I sometimes compare myself to.

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When was the last time you tried something new?

Life can get so repetitive at times. We’re often doing a lot of the same things. We wake up, shower, eat, and brush our teeth. We head into work for eight hours and then drive home. After we decompress, we find something to eat and probably find a show to watch on Netflix. And before you know it, you’re sleeping for eight hours to do wake up and do it all over again the next day. When you really zoom out and look at life there’s a lot of repetition. Most people do novel things on the weekends, on vacation, or if something really random happened in their life.

And that’s not great. We need a certain level of predicitability in life. It’s good for us to have security and peace of mind in what we can expect in life. Not to mention, it’s hard to accomplish really big goals if you’re not being consistent in life. Routine is good. But novelty is also really important. When we try new things it inspires us to think about things differently. We see the world from a different perspective. Some of the best discoveries come from putting yourself in new and exciting situations. You should keep a healthy amount of spontaneity in your life. So when was the last time you tried something new?

Here’s a short story on the last time I tried something new.

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How would you describe your future in three words?

The future is such a beautiful place. Not because things will be perfectly crafted, artistic and efficient. That’s not a guarantee. But rather, the future is one of the few places our minds can truly go wild with imagination. We can imagine an endless amount of worlds in the future. And if we work hard enough, we just might make it a reality. The past is already set in stone. The present is in action. The future is always a big question mark. That uncertain certainty is a beautiful thing. Because the future is pretty much guaranteed. I’m not the biggest gambler, but I’ll bet my money nearly everytime that the sun rises tomorrow.

And that’s why we have to put an emphasis on the future. We can analyze our past and connect a million dots. We can live in the present and experience everything we can sense. But the future is something that has to potential to be good or bad depending on how much emphasis you put on it now. If you’re actively thinking about your future, you can craft it to your will. If you ignore your future you will be a passenger on the journey of life and your ultimate destination. We aren’t promised tomorrow. But tomorrow will be important in your life. You should take the time to think of what you want your future to look like. It can help you be more proactive in realizing that future. So how would you describe your future in three words?

Here’s my thoughts on how I would describe my future in three words.

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